How to help your child succeed in school

It can be difficult to know how best help your child during their secondary school years. Children are often at an age where they can actively resist your help and claim they can do it all themselves. Whilst it is natural for teenagers to want greater independence, they of course still need a lot of support.

Keep in touch with the Academy:

  • Weduc is the main communication tool used by the academy, to keep parents informed, engaged and up-to-date with their child’s progress. Weduc can be accessed as a mobile app or parents can simply login to a web platform here. All parents and carers receive an enrolment letter containing details of how to register and access Weduc. You will be given a unique and secure login for your account.
    Here is a guide to using Weduc
  • Homework is communicated to students via Microsoft Teams. Students are asked to briefly record when each homework is due in their homework diary. Details of each homework is then available on Microsoft Teams as an assignment. Microsoft Teams also allows students to ask teachers questions and access other class materials. Further information on homework and a guide on how to access and use Microsoft teams can be found at the front of your child’s homework diary.
  • You will have opportunities to talk with your child’s tutor and teachers during the academic year. These are likely to include events on SchoolCloud, an award-winning platform that supports virtual parents’ evenings.
  • Your child’s tutor is your first point of contact in the academy. If you have a query, if possible, please contact tutor’s first by email.

Talk with your child about their reviews

Use reviews to help your child set goals. When you child receives a review celebrate their achievements and speak to your child about how they can build on their successes. Agree on one or two ways your child can tweak their approach or mindset to achieve even more.

Support your child’s personal development

A successful experience in school is not only about academic grades. We aim for all Tuxford students to grow into enriched, well rounded, self-confident young people. As a parent you can support your child. Below are some ideas of how:

  • Encourage your child to take part in extra-curricular activities both within and outside of school. Where possible acting as their ‘taxi’! This will help them make new friends and have fun.
  • Guide your child on becoming self-reliant. Wherever possible, give your child the opportunity to solve their own problems, this will lead them to feel empowered.
  • Celebrate your child’s personal development achievements, from learning to play an instrument, to entering a sports event, to raising money for charity. This will increase their confidence and self-worth. You could support your child in year 7, 8 and 9 to achieve their character badges. Find out more about character badges here.
  • Encourage your child to go on day-trips and residentials. Trying something new, especially a residential trip away from home, can be scary for your child and you! But when your child returns home buzzing with stories and a newfound confidence it will have been worth it. We may be able to offer financial support for this through are hardship fund, to enquire about this please contact parents@tuxford-ac.org.uk.
  • Check if your child is entitled to free school meals. Having a nutritious meal during the school day is important for children’s health, wellbeing, and learning – and we want to ensure that all children who are eligible for free school meals benefit from this scheme.

Support your child’s academic learning

Your support is also vital in your child’s academic success in school. Here are some guidelines for making sure you start on the right foot and to keep your child’s enthusiasm and momentum high throughout the school year.

  • Show interest in your child’s day by asking them questions about what they have learnt.
  • Focus conversations on what your child has learnt about and how they learnt this. This places value the process of learning over the attainment of high grades. If students try each day, there will be no need to focus on their grades. Placing too much attention of grades as an extrinsic motivator undermines the real value of learning and students’ desire to learn in the long term.
  • Praise, praise and praise again. Saying well done makes a huge difference to a child’s motivation (even if they only shrug and tell you to stop embarrassing them).
  • Provide a place that is quiet for your child to study. Work alongside them to set up a homework routine that allows them to balance schoolwork with their other interests. Making this routine a regular one will minimise conflict. If your child says they haven’t got homework on a set night they could always read, complete an extension activity, or some revision.
  • Use reviews to help your child set goals. When you child receives a review celebrate their achievements and speak to your child about how they can build on their successes. Agree on one of two ways your child can tweak their approach or mindset to achieve even more.
  • Support your child in their revision by building it into their homework routine. Children often avoid the hard part of revision, which is retrieval (remembering). Offering to quiz your child and listening to them talking through their learning has a great impact. Here are some further hints and tips on revision 
  • Encourage your child to take responsibility. When children find something difficult or make a mistake, they can seek to shift responsibility. Listen, so your child feels heard, and then encourage your child to reflect on their own approach. Try not to allow your child to opt out of their responsibilities, instead reorientate the conversation onto your child’s choice and approach. Like you, teachers want your child to do well, and it is key we work in partnership in helping them.
  • Keep your child safe when on their phones. The internet can be a dangerous place for children. Children can be at risk from cyber predators, graphic adult content, gambling sites and cyber bullying. Use parental controls to allow you to determine what your child can see. Talk to your child about the risks and gradually remove these parental controls as your child grows up. Here are some guidelines to making the internet safe for your child
  • Limit computer game use. Computer games can be a great leisure activity that helps children relax. We need to help children regulate their use of these games because they are addictive. Agree with your child a time limit for computer games and make sure they are not being used late at night. Many computer games can also be used by predators to communicate with your child so be vigilant, set controls and check in on your child when using the games.
  • Look forward, not back. If you or your child is disappointed with their progress, try to look to the future: How are you going to use this experience to be better next time? This technique works particularly well for anxious children because they can get stuck in a negative feedback loop. Helping them shift their focus back to the process can alleviate that anxiety by giving them control.
  • Model to your child that adults are learners to. Talk about your own failures and successes with your children, showing them that you, too, are invested in the process of learning. If you child sees you being brave and learning from your mistakes so you can be better next time, so will they.

Helping your child at times of difficulty

Sometimes your child might go through times of difficulty and as a parent you may need help to support them. Speak to us if you believe your child is being bullied. It is crucial that all children feel safe at school. Bullying is behaviour that is repeated, intended to hurt someone either physically or emotionally and often aimed at certain groups, for example because of race, religion, gender or sexual orientation. We take all types of peer on peer abuse very seriously. If your child comes to you and asks for help with a bully the most important thing is to take them seriously.

All students have access to myconcern, they can log their concerns there and the safeguarding team will support them. Often young people are embarrassed to talk. So even if your teen doesn’t turn to you for help, you can watch for these warning signs that he or she is being bullied. Children who are bullied may experience withdrawal, reluctance to go to school, a loss of friends, a loss of interest, torn clothing, bruises and even self-harm. If you think your teen is being bullied, you can help them by talking to your child’s form tutor or head of year.

Remember you are not alone. Whatever difficulties you face, there are many places you can go for support: